relational inquiry

I’d like to guide you to understand and unblock your key relations

relations we can explore:

to meaning
to yourself/your body
to money
to work
to purpose
to family
to a specific person/relationship
to nature
to intimacy
to sexuality
or whatever is alive for you

what you might experience

more spaciousness around stuckness or confusion
a sense of getting unblocked
more acceptance and love for yourself
a new sense of clarity and direction
a new perspective on your situation

testimonials

“It helped me connect more deeply with myself and put my relationship to life in perspective. The frozen, big emotions I had around this. The creative juice was unleashed in the images that came to me, which is the most precious nutrient for an artist. It gave me physical ease in the body, in my abdomen, something just melted.”

– Anansi (@S0uldirect0r)

had a really beautiful ifs session with @sandra_sobanska last night where I met a kind hulk-like, rock-man type part that represented strength and independence. we had a very loving encounter and I feel like I have a much better understanding of why it’s hard to ask for help now!
— anita (@neats29) August 11, 2023

I volunteered to test out this process and I feel it’s my duty to report that it was a remarkable experience—I feel much lighter on my feet and acquired significantly more clarity.

I look forward to seeing where Sandra takes this and how much it helps others. 🙏 https://t.co/msEmwpHzXr
— Laz (@LazPieper) July 20, 2023

signed-up to test this with Sandra and wow. one of the most moving and tender ifs-like experiences i've ever had

i've never left an ifs/facilitated session and wanted to describe it as beautiful until today. that was a beautiful experience. i hope you all get to experience it https://t.co/OqA5gV0XDI
— my name is nibras ꩜ نبراس ◡̈ (@heynibras) July 24, 2023

my approach

this quote by Viktor Frankl is one of my most formative quotes:

"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
— sandra (@sandra_sobanska) January 31, 2024

I believe that the way we choose to relate to objects of meaning and people in our life (including ourselves) is a key ingredient to an aligned existence.

I want you to come into more in touch with the relational field that you’re already a part of and notice where things could be more spacious, where you could have more choice.

I am fascinated by polarities – feminine and masculine, soft and intense, specific and wholistic, relational and rigorous.

I like to move between those as I hold space, depending on what it seems that you need.

I am not interested in being your coach or a therapist. I want to hold space for you and in that become a mirror for you. I want to help you see yourself more clearly and find the wisdom that’s already there.

The way I hold space is inspired by Internal Family Systems, somatic inquiry, Focusing, philosophical inquiry, and circling/authentic relating. Please note, however, that I am not, officially certified in those modalities.

Your safety is really important for me. Exploring the mind and deeper conditioning might be emotional and I don’t claim to be able to hold space for whatever arises. We’ll talk about boundaries and explore where and how far we want to go together in each session.

If you have any questions, send me an email on sasobanska@gmail.com or book a session below.

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